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Shame & Guilt

Merriam-Webster possesses three definitions for shame: 1) "a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety", 2) "condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute", and 3) "something that brings censure or reproach; also something to be regretted ". Therefore, shame focuses on self. I am a bad person or I will never be good enough or I cannot believe that I am the type of person who would do this or that. On the other hand, guilt is defined as "feelings of deserving blame especially for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy".

My Redemption From Shame & Guilt

I have been consumed with shame and guilt the majority of my life. Not only did I possess extreme forms of it when dealing with my addiction, but it crossed over in other areas of my life. For instance, in multiple situations, I would think that I am a terrible person, because I would lie constantly. Or I would think that I am a bad person. I am such a bad person that I am not worthy of love. For myself, I wanted love and found a sanctuary in my addictions. For the Samaritan woman, she pursued love in an unhealthy manner with numerous relationships.

Final Thoughts About Shame & Guilt

Conquering the effects of shame and guilt are continual. It requires daily attention and it begins with bringing all things back to Jesus. First, Jesus is kind, loving, and not afraid of us. Shame and guilt want you to believe that Jesus will not be this way towards you. However, it is a lie. Not once did Jesus stop loving the Samaritan woman. Instead He fought for her to gain the complete truth and leave her life of sin. He wanted to be her everything.